Love or Lust

Love, a four letter mysterious word;

The most common yet misunderstood most;

A precious gift wrapped in lust;

The universe strongest force,

He was a faithful spouse for many years, both to his pledge and to his words. Until the day she noticed some changes in him; in his clothing, in his schedules and whereabouts, in his financial needs and spending, in words of wisdom that only later included justifying unfaithfulness, in his subtle logic that justifies a sin (the sinner's sin defense, which states that because a person is a sinner, it is natural for him to commit a sin). 

 

There is no reason for adultery or infidelity. There's an old adage that goes, "a guy who makes a lady weep has a spot in hell." The penalty for unfaithfulness and illicit affairs, which inflict terrible anguish to the aggrieved wife or husband, according to ancient Vedic doctrine, is to have sex with a molten iron companion."No illicit sex" is one of the four regulated rules that a person must follow if he wants to pursue a spiritual path, but unfortunately, the moral standard of today's society is so degraded that even some spiritually minded individuals cannot or choose not to observe this fundamental rule.


Anyone who is unfaithful commits a heinous act against his or her wife or husband, the marital vow, the children, the relationship, and the injured party's family. Anyone's explanation for justifying such an act would merely demonstrate that person's desire, arrogance, and stupidity. It's a stupid and wicked conduct. And going down to ask pardon from God, who was there when he made that solemn and holy pledge, would not suffice. The culprit must first seek forgiveness from the person he has upset by his evil behavior, the wife or husband, and the children, whose aspirations and moral basis have been disturbed, if not destroyed. However, it takes two to tango, and what I'm going to talk about is the unfaithful partner's missing steps and the corrective actions that she/he had to do in order for both of them to complete and finish the dance of married life.

In live performances, the solution to an error is to just pretend that such an error did not occur.

If one is a singer, he should just continue singing, and if one is a dancer, he or she should simply continue dancing.

In real life, however, this procedure is almost impossible since in real life, the performer's heart is bleeding, his or her body is numb, and the mind is like the storming wind of a tropical depression, confused by waves of alarming causes in a restless sea.

She was so deeply hurt, and she is crying and saying it's unfair. But who is unfair when she is the one who wanted him to be what he is not.

No matter how he tried to pose as an all-knowing person, like everyone else, he was weak and imperfect, and those imperfections had never been so clear. Through his lapse in judgment, he practically ruined himself. Now his life is a contradiction. Actions speak louder than words. From a preacher of truth, he is now a preacher of lies. It will be difficult for him to recognize his predicament because he has a proclivity to justify his folly and imperfection, can be too arrogant to admit mistakes, and possesses a cunning ability to twist the truth. The only thing he admits so far is that he is a sinner, although he admits it to reason out that because he is a sinner he can commit sin.

One thing about the truth is that the more someone fights it, the more they show who they really are.

(To explain his "mistake," he admitted in a roundabout way that he is a demon.

Demons fight against the truth.

They live in hell and are punished by fire and death, which is the final punishment for sin.

This is just one of the many things he says and does that don't make sense. It shows that he is full of lust and ignorance.

If she really cared about him, would she cry for herself or for him, who was going into the worst region of existence?

"Thou shalt love the father with all thy heart, all thy mind, and all thy being." Except for God, no one is worthy of being loved wholeheartedly by anyone. Unfortunately, she loved him with all her heart; she loved him more than anyone, more than anything, maybe more than she loved herself. Part of her predicament was her fault, because although it was his mistake to pose himself as the most lovable person, it's her fault that she believed the lie. At least in earlier years, she may have been a person of knowledge, with strength of character, a good provider, and a loyal husband, but it is not enough for her to love him with all her heart. It is foolish for any person to love anyone more than he or she loves the most lovable, loving God.

 

As fire is covered by smoke,

as a mirror is covered by dust,
or as embryo is covered by the womb; 

 the living entity is  similarly covered 

by different degrees of lust.  -Bhagavad Gita

He doesn't know what love is or how to love, because if he did, he would have known that loving someone means not doing anything that would hurt them. But the question isn't whether he knew how to love or if he loved her; it's clear that he didn't love her. The real question is whether or not she really loved him.


Love is said to be unconditional, so if we love someone, we should be glad that someone else loves them too, no matter where that love comes from.For a real lover, his or her partner's happiness is more important than his or her own. But if we feel burning misery instead of happiness, we are not in love. Instead, we are in lust.


By what she says and does, she shows that she loves a weak liar who is unfaithful and arrogant. It would have been fair if she had just loved him, but it is blind and stupid to love him very much. The fact that she can't see shows that she doesn't really love him, but just wants him.

"A wife is a friend 

given by Gods".

He was overcome by his challenge and she was severely affected by his failure. If “a wife is a friend given by gods", It's time for that god given friend to be strong and rescue him, instead of contemplating in self pity and selfish reasons. Marriage is a union of two person, and The Holy Bible states that they are not two but one. Therefore, the joy and pain of the wife is the joy and pain of the husband; as the joy and pain of the husband is the joy and pain of the wife. This time he needs her to be strong and to really stand by his side.

We cannot stop the rain from falling or the waves from rushing to the shore, and the wind from blowing here and there. We are not in control. What is destined to come will come, and no matter how big our expectation are we cannot force the arrival of something which will not arrive. This world is filled with sorrow and challenges, our existence should be a preparation for the arrival of such challenges. People prepare for their future in terms of money and assets, and on the process become forgetful that emotional turmoil are coming, and its effects are more devastating than physical hunger.